I talk about cliché’s a lot on this blog, partly because they’re annoying little pieces of life that we are obliged to abide by, and partly because I revel in how accurate they are. Sufficed to say they’re rearing their ugly head again for this post I feel compelled to share.
I don’t think people change. They grow, they (sometimes) mature, they learn and add to their life-libraries, but they are at the core – the people you know them to be. While this isn’t groundbreaking and I’m not uncovering anything new by saying it, it feels good to know it.
As life happens to us we often revisit the people we know and the places we’re comfortable in, with fresh stories and new circumstances; this time less naive and more cynical – But our expectations need to have adjusted too.
Any situation you depart from for a while may seem different on your next visit; your old favourite TV show, the cardigan you couldn’t live without, that awful band that it turns out couldn’t sing after all – and if you go in expecting to love it like you did, you might feel like it’s changed somehow, or that you have.
That’s growth. And when you grow, things don’t “fit” anymore, and that’s fine. That’s life.