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I’ll cut to the chase, the below 10 points massively annoy me. I wish people would stop doing them…

Phoning me using Private Number/Unavailable/No Caller ID…

Complete no-no. I don’t know why people STILL do this; everybody I give the time of day to, knows how much this irks me.

They also know that if I have no intention to talk to you, I sure aint picking up your call or phoning you.

Now the funniest point about this is that it’s rare that anyone I class as a true-friend would get the silent treatment. So if you know me but you choose to hide your number when you call me, re-evaluate our friendship maybe…

(Slyly) mentioning my name to gain credit with people that know me, but that don’t know you…

Brown nosing for friendships with people that have no real interest in you and doing that by “casually” bringing me up to them? Oh C’MON! Now please don’t get me wrong – if you & I are good friends then I have no problem with this at all, sharing is always caring – BUT, if I barely give you the time of day, please don’t fool others into thinking we’re best buddies, that’s a lie & you know it…

Ignoring the obvious…

You know those people that selectively see, hear and know things? Yeah I really don’t like that, at all. OH, so you ‘don’t remember’ that I told you something great & exciting that happened last week- but you DO remember something stupid & irrelevant from 2 years ago? Yeah okay “friend” I’ll erm, BRB…

Advice with no backing…

Me:
I could really use some help with (Insert issue here…..)

“Friend”:
Yeah, I can see how you need (repeat issue here…..)

Me:
Yeah, so far I’ve tried (insert attempt(s) here…..) but with no luck…

“Friend”:
Yeah, I see – I mean I WOULD if I could but (strained excuse here…..) maybe you should try (insert insensitive and very unlikely suggestion here…..)

Me:
Gee, thanks I hadn’t thought of that…*o(>.<)o*

If you can help, but you don’t help – question your loyalty…that is all.

You talk but you don’t listen…

Everybody needs people – no (wo)man is an island. But sweetie, it’s a two way street. Some of the people I know are amazingly talented at telling me how helpful I’ve been to them , yet I bet it’d take them a minute to remember when I last said that same thing to them. Yup, I’ll wait… *crickets*, *tumbleweed*

Constantly complaining…

Your special, we all are. Our parents taught us just that. But if your mum taught you that the world is such a magical place that wherever you go, the earth revolves around that exact spot, she lied (& I’m sorry).

We all get annoyed from time to time, its human nature to get hacked off. However, it could be so much worse, because fact is, you’re here telling ME the issue you have, meaning you’re alive in the developed western world, therefore you’re blessed in a big way – so smile, I know you want to!

Giving only to get? No bueno…

See I have a theory that I go by, if you aren’t doing it because you want to, then I probably don’t need it.

Now in business, of course its different, in business people are usually a**wholes. But in friendship, I get so annoyed at people that offer some sort of help only to expect something from me in return. Screw you.

If your smile isn’t real, and your time is too precious to share, then don’t even holler no more. It’s doubly worse, when that person has really bad friends they rant to me about, but they seem to offer those friends everything & more without complaining to them. I’m not a second class citizen, so don’t treat me like one.

Unhappy unless you’re happy…

If I have to hide my joy because you’re miserable and won’t truly be happy for me, then something is wrong with that picture.

True friends; appreciate the good things that happen for the people they care about. Too often, I have had to bite my tongue because (insert name here….) has had a bad day/week/month/YEAR and so probably won’t care – and will see anything positive I say as me bragging.

Get over yourself!

Judging me by your standards…

Just because you lie, b*tch or cheat does not mean that I do. Also, because YOU feel a certain way about a certain something, that is NOT necessarily how I feel about it. Stop assuming everything! – You know that saying “Assumption is the mother of all f-ups”? – well it’s usually  true.

Selective amnesia…

Please don’t wonder, or wait in vain with question upon question of why, when, how, what or where it was that caused a rift between us. You already know the answer. You can play dumb if you wish, hey I’ll leave you to play, I’m no into those types of games. I keeps it drama-free…

This list, although written in the first person, applies to any and everybody – not just me. Read it and remember than love is better than hate, and that everyone has feelings. You feel good when you do good, so if you can, do.